How to request a double-opt-in introduction

A double-opt-in introduction gives both people a chance to agree before their contact details or context are shared. The connector first asks the intended recipient privately, then makes the introduction only after receiving a yes.

This approach respects the connector's judgment and the recipient's attention. It also makes the request easier to forward because the essential context is already written down.

Before you ask

Check that the connection is relevant and that you can explain why a conversation could be useful to the other person. A mutual connection is not an obligation to introduce you.

• Name the person you hope to meet and the reason for the request.
• Explain why the conversation may be relevant to them, not only to you.
• Make it easy for the connector to decline without explaining.
• Provide a short forwardable note instead of asking the connector to write your pitch.

A forwardable request

Try: “Would you be comfortable checking whether [Name] is open to an introduction? I would like to speak with them about [specific topic] because [brief relevance]. No pressure if the timing or fit is not right. I included a short note below that you can forward if helpful.”

Keep the note accurate and specific. Do not imply that the connector endorses claims they have not reviewed.

After the answer

If either person declines or does not respond, stop there. If both agree, reply promptly, keep the connector copied only as long as useful, and close the loop with a short thank-you. Consent to one conversation is not consent to ongoing marketing or sharing.